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The Grammys Are Imploding — & You Can Do Something To Change The System

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Once again, the Grammys have a woman problem. It’s the third year in a row that I’ve written about this and, somehow, the problem not only persists but gets bigger each year. 2020 finds the Recording Academy’s board facing their biggest woman problem yet: their newest CEO and president, Deborah Dugan. Dugan was placed on administrative leave 10 days before the 2020 Grammy Awards following allegations of workplace bullying. Instead of going quietly into the night, she’s chosen to fight back. Dugan filed a legal claim to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) filled with shocking accusations. Now, the entire music industry is now watching it unfold days before the ceremony, which happens on Sunday, January 26, transfixed. 

The accusation that the awards are rigged so that board members can change them at will to benefit artists they represent, or just like, is the least shocking part of the scandal. What’s horrifying is the bombshell accusation that former Recording Academy CEO and president, Neil Portnow, the man who we all thought resigned in the wake of his controversial comments that women needed to “step up,” allegedly did not have his contract renewed because an artist who is a member of the Academy accused him of rape. He denies the allegation and says that an independent investigation cleared him, though it had been until then withheld from the public and reportedly from some members of the board. Dugan’s suit asserts that it is, to her knowledge, why he was removed from his office.

What’s also horrifying is the recounting of how Joel Katz, an outside attorney who represents the Academy, took Dugan to a dinner after she was offered the job where he tried to kiss her and asked if she wanted to visit some of his multiple homes across the world. Katz denies the allegation.

What’s additionally horrifying is that Dugan attempted to begin putting into place all the recommendations of the Diversity and Inclusivity Task Force that the Grammys set up to address years of gender and racial diversity problems, only to be shut down by a predominantly white male board who reportedly wanted change — well, as long as it happened slowly and not at their expense.

None of this is the plot of a modern-day horror movie; it’s the actual job Dugan signed up to take following Portnow’s “step up” debacle and shepherding an outdated organization through a PR disaster of its own making. Prior to joining the Academy, Dugan was the CEO of the nonprofit (Red), co-founded by U2’s Bono. She worked as an executive at Disney’s publishing arm and at EMI Records, and started her professional career as a lawyer. The Academy said that she was put on administrative leave after they received a complaint of workplace bullying.

Friends who I’ve known and worked with for years in music told me about unwanted sexual advances and abuse, having to develop strategies to not be alone in a room with certain men — and asked me to never, ever tell those stories.

After #MeToo hit the music industry, women in music started networks to talk about what was happening. As a few men faced ramifications for their alleged misconduct, I listened while they shared information about men who were accused and men whose accusations have yet to see the light of day. Friends who I’ve known and worked with for years in music told me about unwanted sexual advances and abuse, having to develop strategies to not be alone in a room with certain men — and asked me to never, ever tell those stories. We talked about how brave the women who came forward were and watched hopefully as the non-disclosure agreements that protected so many toxic men who jump from job to job in the music industry were identified as a problem. We also discussed the trauma of working in male-dominated spaces and, instead of buying into the “there’s room for one woman” bullshit we’d all been sold, we started believing each other. 

For many women in music, especially those who became activists during the thick of #MeToo and have wondered if the music industry would face any further reckoning as the movement shifted from outing abusers to taking them to court, it’s an especially fraught story. It’s the tale of a woman just trying to do the job she thought she was hired for, until she bumps up against sexual misconduct, entrenched sexism and racism, and a lot of white men who will do absolutely anything to protect their own interests. We’re watching one of the most prestigious institutions in music circle the wagons in an attempt to save face and hold onto a way of doing things that led to the systematic underrepresentation of women and people of color in the Grammy Awards.

And we’re watching them sacrifice a woman to do it. 

Women in music do not have equal representation. According to numbers crunched by the Annenberg Inclusion Institute, who looked at five awards, the Grammy nominees from 2013-2020 were only 11.7% women. The 2020 Grammy Awards, for which a slew of new voters, comprised mostly of women and minorities, were invited to join the Academy, and for which the nominating committees were 50% women, saw gender parity the awards at an eight-year high, with 20.5% of the nominees being women.

Among Dugan’s accusations in the EEOC complaint comes news that she was offered a salary that was half of what her predecessor was paid, and that the Academy told her she should be “happy” to be paid more than she was at her previous job at (Red). Dugan’s attorney points out that aside from Dugan, no woman has ever surpassed the title of Senior Vice President at the Academy and notes that the board has always been predominantly white and male. Further, one of the things Dugan was trying to change at the Academy was a direct recommendation of the diversity task force: to make the membership, nominating committees, and leadership 50/50 in gender parity.

I remember the first time a man told me he couldn’t play two songs by women in a row — I was an intern at an alternative rock radio station in the late ‘90s. That genre was supposed to be the friendliest place in music for women, who were having a renaissance in rock music. But they were still being held back. I went to work at MTV as my first job after college and in my near-decade there, as well as subsequent jobs at iHeartMedia, CBS Radio, and doing independent consulting and publicity, I never reported to another woman until I started working at Refinery29. I learned through all of those jobs that if I wanted to convince people that a new sound has legs, that some genre of music is going to be cool, or that something has credibility, you go to them with a male artist. Women’s tastes and likes are summarily dismissed even while the spending power of teen girls is coveted and cashed in on — take their money, but don’t take them seriously could be the mantra of the industry.

Among Dugan’s accusations are that she was offered a salary that was half of what her predecessor was paid, and that the Academy told her she should be “happy” to be paid more than she was at her previous job.

Because of #MeToo, women in music finally started to feel like their stories of abuse and being marginalized were being taken seriously. They also started to get the sense, when the Grammys initiated a task force to address inequality and when major festivals like Coachella vowed to work on booking more women, that women artists and their work would be taken seriously. There was some hope that the idea that was just the way things had always been done wasn’t acceptable anymore — and that’s all because of the women who were speaking up. 

The boys club is extremely real in music — unlike other parts of the entertainment industry, there is no record label at which a woman is the head and doesn’t report, ultimately, to a man. Men run music — and a small group of men at that — and it guarantees that women can only exert a certain amount of power and enact a limited amount of change. 

It’s been pretty quiet in the music networks lately, with conversations of revolution waning while issues of representation and unaddressed misconduct left hanging. Until, that is, Dugan showed up and dropped a bomb on the Grammys which, she told CBS This Morning, was not what she wanted to do. “I only have come out to be here today because I was so severely retaliated against,” Dugan said of the board’s decision to put her on leave.

For their part, the Grammys, which have not publicly announced any plans to address this on the show, slipped an interim CEO into place (Harvey Mason, Jr., a Black man who has produced records by Justin Timberlake and Britney Spears and is currently best known for producing music for films) and quietly cancelled pre-show media events, while host Alicia Keys cancelled pre-show interviews.

Speaking up is hard, as everyone who has watched the Academy try to drag Dugan through the mud this week can clearly see. It’s also the most important thing she, or any woman, can do. As loud as she’s been, there is no way the Academy will get out of addressing the accusations, many of which were long held before they were filed in a legal brief by Dugan, with anything less than full transparency. The boys club may not have wanted change, but they’re about to get it — because someone spoke out. 

I hope this prompts more women behind the scenes in music to speak out, and do it loudly, about the ways women aren’t given fair opportunities, about “that’s the way it’s always been” practices that keep women on the sidelines, and about more grave accusations like sexual misconduct that make far too many aspects of working in music needlessly dangerous. Treating women as less than is why they have less radio airplay, fewer Grammy Awards, less opportunity to become producers and engineers, fewer slots at the top of festival bills, less money, less power, less prestige. 

Now we’re all watching, because the battle of Dugan vs. Boys Club has ramifications for all those hanging conversations women in music were having. Will we get more leverage and be respected through her as a proxy or does the status quo hold?

Women in the industry are watching very closely to see who wins: The “boys club” that controls the Recording Academy, or the woman who took them on. Will the claims that Dugan didn’t “fit in” or take the time to get to understand the organization and make friends with the board win out over Dugan’s claims of being stifled by a Boys Club and being harassed in the workplace? While the public does not yet have all the details, it appears we might be witnessing the Academy gaslighting both Dugan and the industry, implying she wasn’t equipped for the job and wasn’t a fit for their culture. What the Academy perhaps doesn’t understand is that the eyes of all women are on them as they try to pull this old trick off; we’ve all seen it a million times before. Is this accusation of bullying levied against her, which Dugan confirmed was instigated by her predecessor’s assistant, real or some trap that’s giving them a cliff to throw her off of? Above all: Are these men actually preying on women in the workplace sexually in this day and age and getting away with it? 

If we’ve learned one thing from the latest Annenberg study, with its small bump in numbers for women artists, songwriters, and producers, it’s this: Talking about the problem brings it out into the light and energizes people who do care to fix it. That we’re having this conversation about inequity at the Grammys and that the board of the Academy is being publicly held to account for their mistreatment of women in the industry is a huge deal. Keep talking about it, even if it takes another year.

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Oreos Introduces Two New Cookie Flavors With Some Incredible Mashups

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Oreo is on a roll and there is no rest in sight. Most of us have yet to get our hands on this season’s festive pink Easter Oreos, but the cookie company is already coming at us again with two more reasons to linger in the Nabisco section of the grocery store. And we spot a cookie-ception theme of cookie flavors inspired by other cookies.

The first one is chocolate marshmallow, a flavor combination you’ve likely been introduced to thanks to cookies like Mallomars or Pinwheels. There is no chance of failure when you start with marshmallow and cover it in chocolate. The cookie is dotted with marshmallow pieces and the creme is chocolate-marshmallow.

The second is caramel coconut. You’d think that the obvious source of inspiration here is the timeless Girl Scout classic, Samoas. However, there’s a picture of a cake on the packaging, so we’re honestly not sure what that means. 

The devil works hard but as of late, Oreos works harder. In a matter of weeks, we’ve seen the roll-out of three new cookie flavors, during Girl Scout cookie season, no less. These last two look like fun tributes to some classic snacks, even if that wasn’t the intention.

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7 Anti-Static Products For Smooth Hair Through Spring

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Putting on your favorite wool sweater ends with a halo of flyaways; removing your trusty beanie after a particularly chilly commute puts you on a one-way train to static central. Sound familiar? There are worse problems to have, to be sure — but if you're ready to nix those pesky flyaways regardless, there are ways to make it happen without compromising on warmth.

"Hair tends to get staticky in the wintertime because there's a lack of moisture in the air, which hair strands rely on for movement and volume," Sacha Mitic, stylist and co-founder of Sachajuan, tells Refinery29. And yes, your bundle-up accessories are another culprit: They usually contain synthetic fibers that naturally repel hair strands.

"To reduce static, you need to add moisture back into the hair," Mitic explains. "After styling, use an argan-based hair oil or serum to seal the hair follicle and lock in moisture. During the winter months, consider adding a hair mask or treatment to your routine at least once a week." Ahead, seven other ways to address static-prone hair this season.

At Refinery29, we’re here to help you navigate this overwhelming world of stuff. All of our market picks are independently selected and curated by the editorial team. All product details reflect the price and availability at the time of publication. If you buy something we link to on our site, Refinery29 may earn commission.

IGK Laid-Back Defrizz and Anti-Static Spray


If you want to maintain natural volume and texture while still managing frizz, look for a super-lightweight styling spray like this one, which contains panthenol to condition. Use it on damp hair before you blow dry, as a final styling step, or on dry hair for touch-ups as needed.

IGK Laid-Back, $, available at IGK

Sachajuan Hairspray Light and Flexible


A common hack to quickly nix flyaways is to spray hairspray onto a comb and gently run it through your hair. This one gets the job done sans stickiness or crunch factor.

Sachajuan Hairspray Light and Flexible, $, available at DermStore

Captain Blankenship Mermaid Hair Oil


Keeping your hair hydrated is important 365 days a year, but it's especially key when your strands start defying gravity. "Use a hydrating conditioner after shampooing, and follow with a leave-in conditioner," Mitik advises. (A good hair oil will also do the trick.)

Captain Blankenship Mermaid Hair Oil, $, available at Ulta Beauty

Scionse ExStatyk - Anti Static Hair Mist


This Amazon hidden gem offers a veil of anti-static protection that won't weigh down even the finest of hair types.

Scionse ExStatyk Anti Static Hair Mist, $, available at Amazon

R+Co FOIL Frizz + Static Control Spray


Don't let the extremely good packaging trick you into thinking this is just another pretty product: The stuff inside is truly magic when it comes to taming frizz and giving hair a major shine boost, too.

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Redken Frizz Dismiss Anti Static Oil Mist

If you're looking for a product that's more substantial than a spray and lighter than the typical oil, this is it. This oil-based mist instantly smoothes and conditions strands, but is lightweight enough to leave volume intact.

Redken Frizz Dismiss Anti Static Oil Mist, $, available at Ulta Beauty

Davines Melu Hair Shield


To reduce static, Rob Peetoom master stylist Linda de Zeeuw recommends that clients invest in a leave-in product to keep hair moisturized all day. This invisible mist not only tames flyaways, but also works as a heat protectant, making it an ideal pre- and post-styling product.

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Donna Rotunno Is The Woman Behind Harvey Weinstein’s Defense Team

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Mandatory Credit: Photo by Erik Pendzich/Shutterstock (10519064aq) Harvey Weinstein and Donna Rotunno arrive at Criminal Court on January 6, 2020 in New York Harvey Weinstein court hearing, New York, USA – 06 Jan 2020

After years of waiting and delayed trials during the #MeToo era, Harvey Weinstein’s day in court is finally here. But, it took a long time to get here.

As of January 2020, at least 100 women have come forward with allegations of either sexual assault or harassment by Weinstein. Currently, he’s been charged with five counts of predatory sexual assault, criminal sex acts, and rape. On January 6, in a Manhattan courthouse, many women waited to make their stories heard — with others still waiting — to those who could provide Weinstein life-long consequences.

Still, Weinstein’s lawyers have fought tooth and nail to suppress testimonies and relieve him of consequences. In fact, prosecutors have already dropped charges related to one accuser, Lucia Evans. Many women (currently remaining anonymous) are expected to testify during this trial, and prosecutors are hoping that the cumulative cases stacked against him with numerous stories from survivors will show Weinstein’s pattern as a serial abuser. And, on Thursday, former Sopranos star Annabella Sciorra gave a heartbreaking testimony where she ultimately said that Weinstein raped her in open court.

With so many women aligned in the courtroom, not all of them are fighting against Weinstein. Donna Rotunno, the defense attorney behind Harvey Weinstein’s best-that-money-can-buy defense team, is here to fight for his innocence. So who exactly is Donna Rotunno and why is she choosing to defend Weinstein?

Rotunno is a lawyer who hails from Chicago and has a history of representing men accused of sexual assault. Most importantly, she explicitly says she does not believe Weinstein is guilty of any crimes. As to why she took this case in particular, Rotunno told the Chicago Sun-Times that, “Everyone deserves a defense,” adding, “I think for me — why I take these cases — is I do believe we can be effective for him.”

She also stated that she “doesn’t subscribe” to the #MeToo movement, and that “women are responsible for the choices that they make.” In her 15 years as a defense attorney, this is roughly the 40th sexual-misconduct-related case she’s taken on to absolve a man accused of assault.

According to Rotunno, her part in the Weinstein trial is to help convince women to take responsibility for their own actions. But in doing so, she also strips Weinstein of responsibility and consequences and effectively takes agency away from the women he’s hurt. In no uncertain terms, it’s troubling enough that Rotunno has chosen to defend Weinstein — one of the most powerful people in the history of Hollywood.

While Sciorra took the stand during her Thursday testimony, Rotunno maintained a strategy to change the narrative of Weinstein’s alleged rape by asking the actress why she was in the situation to begin with. During the cross-examination, Rotunno harped on Sciorra’s decision to open her door wearing a cotton nightgown, though she did not even know Weinstein was behind it.

Part of Rotunno’s troubling strategy is clear: she claims that trading your body for work may just be part of what women signed up for when they entered Hollywood. She says that her goal is for her clients “to be able to walk out of there — even if they’ve been beaten, battered, scarred, bruised — and at least have that order that says ‘A court found me not guilty,’ that’s important to me.”

This past December, Rotunno spoke directly to the women accusing Weinstein of sexual assault in an interview with ABC, dismissing all claims. “If you don’t want to be a victim, don’t go to the hotel room,” Rotunno said.

With a predatory sexual assault charge against him, Weinstein could potentially serve a life sentence if the jury finds him guilty. Rottuno and the rest of his defense team are doing everything they can to avoid that, and to up scrutiny of the women instead of Weinstein. The women at the trial, however, want the focus to be on his actions. But accusers are fortifying, preparing to testify and prove a history of predatory behavior that will force Weinstein, in no uncertain terms, to confront and pay for his actions — regardless of any outlandish defense tactics that attempt to dismantle their cases.

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The Plastic Surgery Trends Everyone Will Be Talking About In 2020

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When we talk about plastic surgery in 2020, the conversation tends to go one of two ways: There's the side of the argument that tells us it's empowering to have complete control over the way you look and therefore the way the world perceives you, and the side that reminds us how demoralizing it is to consider the value society places on appearances, especially for women.

But what we often neglect to mention is that these two viewpoints can coexist. You can be pissed off at the patriarchy for upholding the tired notion that women must look a certain way to be taken seriously, and still want to get under-eye filler to reduce the genetic dark circles that make you look exhausted all the time. You can be confident and independent with a thriving social life and career and still, as Fleabag once said, fear losing the currency of youth. We are large, we contain multitudes.

At any rate, plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures are not some fly-by-night phenomena we'll look back on and think, "The fuck was that?" Statistics show that they are only continuing to soar in popularity; the most recent report out of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons shows that the total number of minimally-invasive cosmetic treatments has gone up a whopping 228% since 2000.

But statistics can only tell you so much about what's new, what's happening, and what's on the forefront in a constantly evolving field. For that, we turn to the experts in the trenches — or, rather, the dermatologist's offices and ORs. Ahead, the four biggest plastic surgery and cosmetic treatment trends we'll be talking about in 2020, when we're not talking about the world being on fire or the war on Roe v. Wade.

All About Eyes


"2020 will be an eye-opener," says double board-certified facial plastic and reconstructive surgeon Dara Liotta, MD, FACS — and she's not talking about what's to come in November. Between the universal desire for awake-looking eyes, defined brows, and reduced dark circles, and the advancement of minimally invasive techniques to achieve them, all eyes will be on all things eyes this year.

For the brightest, most natural-looking results, Dr. Liotta predicts that patients will combine minor surgeries like upper-eyelid blepharoplasty — which involves permanently removing excess skin that can cause eyes to look "heavy" — along with non-surgical techniques, like under-eye filler and the Botox brow lift. "Optimizing the eyes can do wonders for making us look better-rested, less stressed, and more put-together," says Dr. Liotta. No one has to know how late the news cycle keeps you up at night — it is an election year, after all.

Tweakments


Eyelash extensions that take two hours but spare you six months of mascara application, balayage highlights that warrant an entire afternoon in the salon chair but require only twice-yearly touchups: Increasingly, we're opting to be high-maintenance for a moment to make our day-to-day routines a little less so.

With that, says Dr. Liotta, "More and more patients will be willing to come and sit in my office chair once or twice a year for 'tweakments.'" That can mean the ability to eschew under-eye concealer and strobing makeup by creating smoother under-eyes and higher cheekbones, or strategic lip filler that liberates you from liner altogether.

Board-certified dermatologist and co-founder of LM Medical in NYC, Morgan Rabach, MD, says she expects to see more of these minimalist requests from patients in their 20s in particular, who will be looking for "small incremental refinements" via filler and baby Botox, "all done in little tiny tweaks to look better, but not 'done.'"

The Anti-Medspa


The law of supply and demand also applies to plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures: With more people seeking them out, more practitioners are making them available — for better or for worse. This is particularly relevant for aesthetic treatments like fillers and injectable wrinkle relaxers, as the rules and restrictions around who can administer them are murky at best. In that gray area, the medical spa industry thrives.

Of course, not all medspas are made alike — some are perfectly legitimate and staffed by board-certified professionals. But there are enough horror stories about fillers gone wrong to warrant an alternative that's just as accessible, with a lot more oversight. Spots like these are already gaining traction in coastal cities: In Los Angeles, there's The Things We Do, and in New York City, there's Ever/Body, a bright, sleek space where minimally invasive treatments are performed under strict supervision of resident dermatologist and medical director Jared Jagdeo, MD, MS.

"As a procedural board-certified dermatologist, I'm passionate about opening up access to this category of aesthetic treatments, and Ever/Body is at the forefront of clinical aesthetic oversight for injectables and cosmetic procedures," says Dr. Jagdeo. "We are hyper focused on aesthetic safety and efficacy, and we have the most rigorous training in the industry: over 100 hours of hands-on and didactic aesthetic training." The key difference between the facility and the average medspa is that each nurse practitioner has advanced education beyond that of a registered nurse, and they're legally able to prescribe medication. The bottom line, says CEO and co-founder Kate Twist, is ultimately to bring transparency to what she calls "a historically opaque and analogue category."

Removals & Reversals


Last July, two years after first identifying an association between textured breast implants and anaplastic large cell lymphoma (a rare type of non-Hodgkin's lymphoma that starts in white blood cells, commonly referred to as BIA-ALCL), the FDA called on pharmaceutical company and breast-implant manufacturer Allergan to voluntarily recall a number of its textured breast-implant products from the market.

While the company maintained that it was voluntarily recalling its products out of an abundance of caution, naturally, patients who'd received the implants sought advice from their physicians about whether the risk was significant enough that they should have theirs removed.

The short answer was no, as the FDA and other health authorities did not recommend removal in asymptomatic patients — but that particular instance is just one small contribution to why more and more women are looking to remove, reverse, and revise their past surgeries and procedures. A 2019 Aesthetics Trend Report conducted by RealSelf found that, even as overall interest in breast augmentation remained high, breast implant removal saw a 91% interest increase since 2018. Above the neck, interest in hyaluronidase, an injectable enzyme that breaks down hyaluronic acid fillers, shot up 50%.

As Dr. Liotta explains, the "trend" isn't so much a trend as it is a natural result of increased knowledge and awareness around plastic surgery as a whole. "People are more educated about the possibility of reversals and removals," she says. Whereas someone dissatisfied with the appearance of their surgery ten years ago may have seen no choice but to stick with it, in 2020, people know their options.

At the same time, people using social media to open up about their experiences with plastic surgery has helped to relieve some of the stigma — and that's a really good thing. "Reducing the stigma takes away the guilt," says Dr. Liotta, "making people more likely to seek out corrections when their work isn’t perfect."

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Sweet Digs: 3 DIY Projects To Try For Under $150 Each

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On Refinery29’s Sweet Digs, we take a look inside the sometimes small, sometimes spacious homes of millennial women.

They say decor offers endless options and that a coat of paint or a patterned couch can turn a familiar space into something unrecognizably new. But when power tools get involved, the options truly become endless: it starts with installing the shelves you’ve been putting off, then you’re emboldened to hang everything on your walls. Then you learn to make a little stool, join a ceramics class so you have a vase to set on the stool. The rush of making your space your own using your own hands is unlike any other.

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Why Julianne Hough Loves Energy Healing, According To The Goop Lab

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By now, Julianne Hough has proven that she’s willing to put it all out there. Whether the Dancing with the Stars alum is discussing her sex life or health issues, people have come to know the dancing phenom as an open book. Still, her latest move earlier this week at the World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland provided a shock.

As part of the celeb’s touring fitness program Kinrgy (sometimes called the SoulCycle of dance), she had John Amaral, a licensed chiropractor and body worker, perform an energy healing practice on her in front of a crowd at the event.

In a video taken at the demonstration, Hough looks like she’s doing the worm and having an exorcism at the same time. Lying on a massage table, she lets out a carnal scream, then contorts her body. Meanwhile, Amaral stands behind her, calmly explaining the art of energy healing.

Hough expanded on her relationship with energy treatments in Gwyneth Paltrow’s new Netflix series, The Goop Lab, which premiered today. 

She and Amaral are both on the show, and they gush about the benefits of the practice. “This work is so transformative that I just wanted to share my experience with every single person that I could,” Hough says.

The Goop Lab shows Hough sitting through a healing practice that Amaral calls his “Energy Flow Formula.” In one scene, Amaral touches her back and moves his hands above her, and in response, Hough’s body twists into what looks like a reverse boat pose in yoga.

Energy healing therapy is a technique that involves “channeling healing energy through the hands of a practitioner into the client’s body to restore a normal energy balance and, therefore, health,” according to the National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health. In the Goop show, both Paltrow and Hough say they’ve had powerful experiences with this kind of treatment. 

“There was this one moment last year when John [Amaral] was actually working around my foot, and I got angry. And then I just had such deep sadness. It was actually a memory that I had and it was connected to a trauma that happened to me when I was 10 that I hadn’t even thought of for 20 years,” Hough describes on screen.

She says that when she was young, her parents went through a “pretty aggressive divorce” and she had to live with her dance coaches. “It was not the best living situation,” she reveals. “So I had this really just pissed off anger, literally attached in my foot. This method works incredibly well for me because it helps me experience and go back to things to shift them.”

Hough clearly loves the practice and she’s not alone. But as of now, there’s little research proving its benefits, says Timothy Caulfield, author of Is Gwyneth Paltrow Wrong About Everything? and a Canada Research Chair in Health Law and Policy. “If people believe in a supernatural energy force, that’s fine,” Caulfield says. “And I get that the ritual might provide relief. But it’s wrong to claim that it works in a scientifically measurable way.”

(The Goop Lab has a disclaimer at the beginning of each episode explaining that the series “is designed to entertain and inform — not provide medical advice.” They suggest that viewers see a doctor about your personal health before seeking any treatment.)

Hough, however, says she’s personally benefited from the practice. “I feel so much more liberated on the inside that I can speak my truth clearly, stand in my power and not feel overtaken by emotion,” she explained during the live demonstration with Amaral this week, according to Entertainment Weekly. “Our body is our vessel to hold our energy and that is the most prominent thing that we can take care of.”

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Ayanna Pressley’s Response To Betsy DeVos’ Racist Abortion Comment Is Pure Fire

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Vying for the title of Most Controversial Member of The Trump Administration is no easy feat, but Secretary of Education Betsy DeVos somehow always finds a way to stay in the race. On Thursday, she sparked controversy for making statements that — wait for it — compare abortion to slavery. Her remarks came just two days before Trump became the first president to both attend and headline March for Life — a massive anti-abortion rally that is fighting to overturn Roe V. Wade.

On Wednesday, Devos attended a Colorado Christian University event in Washington, D.C., where she proceeded to make comparisons between the abortion rights debate and abolishing slavery. 

“[Former President Abraham Lincoln] too contended with the pro-choice arguments of his day,” DeVos said at the event, according to the Colorado Times Recorder. “They suggested that a state’s choice to be slave or to be free had no moral question in it. Well, President Lincoln reminded those pro-choicers that a vast portion of the American people do not look upon that matter as being this very little thing. They look upon it as a vast moral evil.”

She referenced the “irony” of supporting a woman’s right to choose whether to have an abortion, but not supporting mothers who want their children to attend “non-traditional public schools.” Of course, parents can send their children to whatever schools they want, but the expectation that public funding should pay for private and/or charter schools ⁠— which is what DeVos wants ⁠— is an entirely separate conversation. 

Her remarks caught the attention of Rep. Ayanna Pressley, who extended an open invitation to DeVos. “Dear Betsy, As a Black woman & the Chair of the abortion access task force, I invite you to say this to my face,” Pressley tweeted in response.

Pressley added that people should support the EACH Woman Act, which guarantees that every woman would have insurance coverage for abortion. “[T]he rhetoric & policies of anti choice zealots like DeVos put the lives & bodily autonomy of far too many people at risk,” Pressley tweeted. “That’s why we need to pass EACH & #repealhyde TAKE ACTION.”

But, in a statement to Newsweek, Angela Morabito, education department press secretary, argued DeVos’ comments were not drawing comparisons between abortion to slavery. “Read the speech. The Secretary did not compare abortion to slavery,” Morabito said. “She made clear that the ‘choice’ debate over states’ rights was as morally bankrupt as the abortion argument about the so-called ‘right to privacy’ is.” But, it looks like Morabito went ahead and contradicted herself in that defense.

Let’s not forget that DeVos has racked up quite the resume of not-so-great policy positions. Last year, she proposed eliminating federal funding for the Special Olympics (yes, really). It was such a terrible proposition that even Trump himself was against it (yes, really). Under her leadership, the U.S. Department of Education has considered letting states use federal funding to buy guns for teachers, and she’s also backed policies that would make it safer to commit sexual assault on campus without repercussion. Meanwhile, Pressley’s consistently used her position in Congress to advance rights for women, people of color, and educate the next generation. So, it looks like DeVos won’t be responding to Pressley’s invitation, because it’s hard to imagine what defense she would have now.

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Why Are So Many Stores Closing In 2020? The Retail Industry’s Downward Spiral

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The big brands you’ve filled your bedrooms and closets with, and the stores you’ve spent hours wandering around, are falling like dominoes in 2020. Retail is taking a monumental hit this year, with stores across the country announcing closures and bankruptcies. For some, this signals the end of fast fashion for brands like Forever 21 which are online shoppable. For others, it could be a monster of our own making — this week, Papyrus announced closures, which we suspect could be a result of millennials and Gen Z-ers moving past the whole greeting card industry.

The way we shop in 2020 is certainly telling (cc: Amazon) and perhaps indicative of the specific stores that are out of business already this year. But is this really just a millennial problem? Or is it just that, given the way that capitalism works, the retail industry has been steadily declining and no one has the money to shop the way we did before? It’s both, when you boil it down. Even the biggest brands just can’t compete with the comfort of shopping from your computer.

With 2017 being dubbed the beginning of the “retail apocalypse” (though many kinds of big stores experienced closures before then, ahem, Blockbuster), the downward trajectory for retail continues. Retail sales took a hit in late 2019, going down .3% according to The Commerce Department. It’s worth looking at how many stores have already announced closures this year, including former retail giants like Forever 21. Even giant grocery stores like Fairway have been rumored to start closing soon. Now, in the continuation of the retail apocalypse, more than 2,000 stores are closing this year. We’ve rounded up some of the stores that are closing in 2020 below.

Bed, Bath & Beyond

Across the country, a total of 44 Bed, Bath & Beyond stores are closing. In a statement this month, the company said it will be closing 40 stores by the end of its fiscal year in April and 20 more before the end of its fiscal 2020 year. Approximately 16 stores have closed already in big states like Texas and New York. Say goodbye to your home goods and test out those comfy beds while you can, folks. Christopher Walken won’t be hiding in the Beyond section anymore!

Papyrus

Don’t worry, the greeting card industry isn’t totally dead right before Valentine’s Day–however, this staple in the gifts and paper goods community will be closing its doors abruptly. The company announced recently that all of its stores will be closed within the next six weeks, if not sooner. According to data from the National Retail Federation, people just aren’t spending on greeting cards the way they used to anymore, with only 44 percent of people surveyed by them saying they plan to spend on cards for the holiday.

Pier 1 Imports

At the beginning of the year, Pier 1 announced its plan to close 450 stores across the country and fire hundreds of employees. The home goods store has been struggling after years of falling sales and mounting competition from online companies like Wayfair, as well as cheaper options like Walmart, which has introduced its own chic lines recently.

Forever 21

Oh, the days of fast fashion do seem to be coming to a close, but the souvenirs of cheap camisoles and leggings in our closets will last forever (read: another week). After filing for Chapter 11 bankruptcy this past year, Forever 21 is set to close 350 stores around the globe. Despite its name, it would seem that under the ebbs and flows of capitalism, nothing truly lasts forever.

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Meal Subscriptions That Will Help Conquer Those 2020 Resolutions

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These days, you can get just about anything delivered — and with 2020 resolutions in full swing, takeout is being ousted by a more health-conscious food delivery: meal-subscription boxes. We're talking super fresh ingredients that are prepackaged and portioned for customized recipes and shipped directly to our doorsteps. The kicker? This ordering-in alternative is more convenient (and oftentimes more cost-effective) than schlepping to the grocery store on a weekly basis.

But before we all run out to sign up, there are a few questions to answer: How much do these services actually cost? And which one of the dozens out there is right for us? For the full 411, we studied up on and cataloged from A to Z the most popular meal-delivery subscriptions available. Scroll ahead to find the best one to help you kickstart that new year cooking regime.

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Blue Apron


"Makes cooking fun and easy. We'll provide you with all the ingredients that you need to make a delicious meal in exactly the right proportions."

Cost: 2-person plan supplies 3 recipes per week (serving 2) for a total of $59.94 ($9.99 per serving). The Family Plan supplies 2-4 recipes per week (serving 4) for a total of either $69.92 or $139.84 (each $8.74 per serving).

Delivery schedule: Tuesday through Friday, with select Monday and Saturday availability in certain areas.

What you get: A flexible subscription for farm-fresh dinner with seasonal produce and spot-on proportions (no leftover food-waste here). Blue Apron also offers a wine-pairing membership to complement your selected dishes (if you so choose).

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes, minus salt, pepper, and olive oil.

Great for: Those looking to share in a straightforward food-delivery lifestyle with fresh food and wine.

Chef'd


"Famous recipes and premium ingredients. Delivered to your kitchen and home-cooked by you."

Cost: Meals range from $33-$79 and serve 2.

Delivery schedule: Delivery between 8 a.m. and 8 p.m.; order one day prior to your desired cooking date.

What you get: Offering a wide array of dinner dishes from well-known chefs across the country (i.e. lots of Food Network stars). Less of a food subscription and more of a make-your-own-meal-on-demand service.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes.

Great for: Non-committers who are interested in some occasional weeknight kitchen assistance.

Daily Harvest


"Built on fruits and vegetables. Delivered to your door, and ready in minutes."

Cost: $47.94 for 6 smoothies a week ($7.99 per smoothie); $89.88 for 12 smoothies a week ($7.49 per smoothie); $167.76 for 24 smoothies a month ($6.99 per smoothie)

Delivery schedule: Delivery on a selected weekly to monthly recurring day of your choosing.

What you get: Flexible subscription of premade superfood smoothies, soups, harvest bowls, oat bowls, chia bowls, bites, and lattes.

Cooking required? No. All meals come premade.

Great for: Those looking for a fresh, fast, and customizable meal-supplement plan that is easy to take on the go.

Dream Dinners


"At Dream Dinners, our thoughtful and attentive staff take care of every detail, from prep to clean up."

Cost: Meal kits range from $9.99 - $13.50 per serving (with a minimum of 36-servings per order); prices can vary depending on store and state location.

Delivery schedule: Subscribers must register for an assembly session at a nearby Dream Dinners' location for assembling and collecting meals to take home.

What you get: A rotating monthly menu of meals that require no shopping, chopping, prep work, or cleanup whatsoever.

Cooking required? Yes — heating the frozen pre-made, but uncooked meals.

Great for: Those looking to design their meals without putting in a ton of time/work the night of cooking/assemblage.

eMeals


"Weekly Recipes, Shopping List, & Peace of Mind"

Cost: $5 a month for a 12-month subscription or $10 a month for a 3-month subscription — plus a 2-week free trial option.

Delivery schedule: No delivery — groceries tied to chosen meal plans can be arranged for pick up at a variety of participating grocery stores (e.g., Aldi, Kroger, Publix, Walmart, Whole Foods, etc.).

What you get: 15 different food variety plans (e.g., Quick & Healthy, Paleo, Classic, Gluten-Free, Vegetarian, etc.) each including recipes for seven meals per week (or a mix and match meal from any plan option) in addition to their corresponding shopping lists.

Cooking required? Yes. You get a week's worth of recipes with corresponding shopping lists that can be placed online and arranged for curbside pick up at your nearest participating grocery store.

Great for: Those wanting flexible meal plan and recipe choices along with control over specific grocery and ingredient brand selection.

Foodkick


"Dinner is easy as 1-2-3"

Cost: Depends on the type of meal, size, etc.

Delivery Schedule: Totally à la carte – order meal kids (or appetizer kits or snack packs) as you need them and include them with your normal Foodkick grocery order.

What You Get: The ability to buy all the ingredients you'd need for steak night or Taco Tuesday (for example) in one place. You'll get a bundled deal, as well as the opportunity to customize what proteins, sides, and spices get included along with it.

Cooking Required? Almost always, though a few options, like the three breakfasts for $10, are grab-and-go.

Great For: People who like the inspiration of a boxed meal kit without being tied to a schedule. s

Freshly


"Chef-prepared, healthy meals, delivered weekly."

Cost: Choose from 6-21 meals per week ranging between $69-$229.

Delivery schedule: Tuesday through Saturday — meals can arrive up to as late as 10 p.m. on the selected delivery date.

What you get: A flexible subscription with chef-prepared recipes and ingredients that not only come fresh (not frozen), but are ready to eat within 2 minutes of opening — no prepping, cooking, or cleaning required. All meals are free of gluten.

Cooking required? No. You get fully prepared meals.

Great for: Anyone looking to do zero work and eat extremely fresh food.

Gobble


"Create stress-free dinners in only 10 minutes."

Cost: Weekly kits come with three recipes, with either two or four servings per recipe. The meals cost $11.95 regardless, and a six-serving box is $71.50. You can also add two cookies for $1.95.

Delivery Schedule: Meals arrive between 8 a.m. and 8 p.m. on the chosen delivery day.

What You Get: 2-3 meals that are prepped and pre-chopped and ready to cook. All meals are designed for one-pan cooking and minimal clean-up. Gobble offers several "certified kid-friendly" meals a week.

Cooking Required: Yes, though most of the prep is done for you.

Great For: Anyone who really hates chopping and clean-up, families.

Graze


"Looking for yummy, nutritious snacks for busy days? Welcome to graze. We're reimagining the way you snack with over 100 graze ideas you can feel good about."

Cost: Snack box subscriptions start at $5.12 per box and individual snack product purchases can range from $2.84 to $14.82 on average.

Delivery schedule: Flexible subscription that can be set to your delivery preference of either twice weekly, weekly, or every two weeks. Additionally, your subscription can be frozen and/or resumed at any time.

What you get: A special curation of over 100 handpicked, healthy snack creations that adhere to your preferred tastes and dietary restrictions

Cooking required? No. Snacks arrive already prepared, portioned out, and ready-to-eat.

Great for: Those looking for a healthy snack plan that is pre-made with a variety of fresh flavors and options.

Green Chef


"Fresh, organic ingredients. Healthy, chef-crafted recipes. Right at your doorstep."

Cost: Each weekly box contains 3 recipes for either 2, 4, or 6 servings ranging from $10.49 per meal to $14.99.

Delivery schedule: Between 8 a.m. and 8 p.m. on your chosen delivery day (shipping is an additional $9).

What you get: A flexible subscription for USDA-certified organic dinners that will take you 30 minutes or under to cook.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured and prepped ingredients with recipes.

Great for: Those with dietary restrictions looking for some well-rounded meal support.

HelloFresh


"Delivers great recipes and fresh ingredients to your home each week. Cook fast, healthy recipes designed by nutritionists and chefs."

Cost: Choose from 3-5 meal boxes, ranging from $59-$99 (serving 2) or $105-$129 (serving 4).

Delivery schedule: 8 a.m. to 8 p.m., Wednesday through Friday, with select delivery from Saturday through Tuesday in certain areas.

What you get: A flexible subscription for your choice of weekly dinner menus preplanned by chefs.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes.

Great for: Anyone with a busy life looking to get in on weekly meal prep made easy (and fresh).

Home Chef


"Our weekly meal-delivery service has everything you need to prepare home-cooked meals in about 30 minutes."

Cost: $9.94 per serving.

Delivery schedule: Tuesday through Friday with a $10 fee for orders under $45.

What you get: Flexible subscription to chef-prepped, sustainably sourced and portioned meals that you can whip together in as little as 30 minutes or less.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes.

Great for: Those who care about food sustainability and time — especially on weeknights.

Hungryroot


"We handpick a thoughtful lineup of trusted brands and products. Then, we deliver groceries and recipes to help you eat well—and feel great—every day."

Cost: Starting at $69 per two-serving delivery for 3-4 meals and snacks; $99 for 4-5 meals and snacks; $129 for 5-6 meals plus snacks.

Delivery schedule: Fresh grocery selections are available for order every Thursday and ship between 9 a.m. and 9 p.m. depending upon package carrier. All ground shipping is free with a $10 fee for air shipments.

What you get: Flexible weekly subscription of high-quality food brands and grocery products with suggested recipes for meal planning that is curated to your personal dietary preferences.

Cooking required? Yes. You receive a curated shipment of groceries that you can choose to pair with suggested recipes for meal making or not.

Great for: Those looking for a flexible but still personalized food-subscription that falls somewhere in between full-on meal kit and basic grocery delivery service.

Marley Spoon


"Seasonal ingredients and delicious recipes from Martha Stewart delivered directly to your door."

Cost: Two-person box ranging from $48-$76 (2-4 meals a week), or the Family Box ranging from $76-$139 (serving 2 adults and 2 children, 2-4 meals a week).

Delivery schedule: Monday through Saturday, depending on your zip code (shipping is free of charge).

What you get: Gourmet-made easy dinners by the legend herself, Martha Stewart — with the future possibility of breakfast, lunch, and dessert subscriptions.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes.

Great for: Martha wannabes who don't have very much time to cook.

PeachDish


"Delivers fresh, locally sourced meal kits right to your door."

Cost: 2-12 servings of weekly dishes starting at $50 ($12.50 per serving).

Delivery schedule: Flexible select delivery dates depending on location.

What you get: Flexible subscription delivering food products that are sourced from small-scale Southern farms. All meals are packaged and proportioned in recyclable containers by classically trained chefs.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes.

Great for: Those who are interested in some good old Southern comfort food made easy.

Plated


"Chef-designed recipes, pre-portioned ingredients, delivered every week."

Cost: 2-7 dinners (serving 2) a week from $48-$168 (free shipping on orders over $50). Desserts can be added for an additional $4.

Delivery schedule: Delivery between 8 a.m. and 8 p.m.

What you get: A flexible meal-delivery subscription offering plenty of recipe combinations, plus dessert! The meals are designed by chefs and utilize sustainable and locally sourced products.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes, minus staples (e.g. eggs, salt, pepper, olive or vegetable oil, etc.).

Great for: Those who are looking to prepare fresh dinner AND dessert on demand.

PlateJoy


"Custom, on-demand meal plans and grocery lists for your unique lifestyle. Optional grocery delivery."

Cost: 6-month and 12-month flexible subscriptions beginning at $8 monthly (excluding optional grocery costs).

What you get: Customized recipes, access to personalized meal plans that are tailored to your specific needs, and an optional grocery list. Includes breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

Cooking required? Yes. You get recipes with optional corresponding ingredient deliveries.

Great for: Those who love to cook, but hate to plan ahead.

Purple Carrot


"Cook delicious plant-based meals at home."

Cost: 3 meals per week (serving 2) for $68 or 2 meals per week (serving 4) for $74.

Delivery schedule: Tuesday and Wednesday, dependent upon the delivery area.

What you get: Flexible subscription for plant-based (i.e. vegan) meals that come freshly prepped and ready to cook.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes, minus salt, pepper, and olive oil.

Great for: Vegans.

Real Eats


"Chef-Prepared, Healthy Meals Delivered to You."

Cost: Meal plans range from 4 meals for $60 a week (i.e. $15 per meal) to 12 meals for $153 a week (i.e. $12.75 per meal).

Delivery Schedule: Meal boxes arrive weekly on Tuesday or Wednesday (depending upon state shipping/delivery guidelines).

What You Get: A weekly subscription that provides a customizable menu of fully prepped and portioned sous-vide meals (i.e. pre-cooked, cooled, and stored in vacuum-sealed pouches).

Cooking Required? N0, only a reheating of the pouches within a pot of boiling water for package-designated times.

Great For: Those who are looking to enjoy a variety of fresh and well-balanced meals on a flexible schedule without having to spend any time with actual prep-work or cooking.

Sakara


"Eating clean has never tasted so good."

Cost: 3 meals per day for $82 (one-week program) or $69 (weekly subscription).

Delivery schedule: Monday through Friday within the flexible timeframe that you select.

What you get: Flexible options for either a one-off or weekly subscription service of breakfast, lunch, and dinner delivered to your door. All meals are plant-based, gluten-free, and organic.

Cooking required? No. You get fully prepared meals.

Great for: Those into clean eating, or with dietary restrictions, who have money to spend.

Sun Basket


"Cook easy, healthy meals every week using organic, sustainably sourced ingredients."

Cost: 2-person Classic Menu of 3 recipes per week or 4-person Family Menu of 2 recipes per week for a total of $32.97 (each $10.99 per serving).

Delivery schedule: Weekly delivery options with a non-binding agreement (i.e. can cancel or skip anytime). The first delivery is free and all additional cost $5.99 per week.

What you get: Seasonal produce that has been hand-picked from organic farms across the country along with corresponding 30-minute recipes that have been developed by an award-winning chef.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes, minus salt, pepper, and cooking oils.

Great for: Those looking for seasonal weekly meals with a fresh and healthy focus.

Takeout Kit


"Introducing the FIRST and ONLY long shelf life meal kit."

Cost: Monthly subscription plans from $32-$90, starting at $7.50 a serving/kit (up to three kits monthly). Shipping is free.

Delivery schedule: Kits ship on the first of every month and arrive within 2-6 business days.

What you get: Globally inspired meal kits that are shelf-life stable for up to two months.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes.

Great for: Those wanting the convenience of a meal subscription service without the 3-5 day pressured time frame for cooking it.

Terra's Kitchen


"A recipe for real life."

Cost: 1-serving items from $3.99 or 2-serving items from $9.99-$17.99. Shipping is free with a minimum order of $64.99.

Delivery schedule: Delivery days vary dependent upon area; meals will arrive between 8 a.m. and 9 p.m.

What you get: Flexible subscription for seasonally fresh meals that are pre-portioned and can be thrown together in 30 minutes or less. Food arrives in a convenient "climate-controlled, eco-friendly vessel" that is reused for future orders.

Cooking required? Yes. You get pre-measured ingredients with recipes.

Great for: Those wanting fresh, dietary restriction-conscious meals delivered and tailored to their household sizes and schedules.

Veestro


"Our meals are so fulfilling, it just might surprise you that they're made from organic plants. Hand-selected. Chef-prepared. You, pleased."

Cost: A la carte ordering with an order minimum of $35 (each meal is a single serving). The starter pack comes with 12 meals (each a single serving) and one juice for a total of $99 with free shipping.

Delivery schedule: Weekly deliveries placed on Sunday will ship out the following Monday or Tuesday. First delivery is free and all additional orders under $35 cost an additional $35 in shipping (additional $19 if the order total is $99 and over, and free if the order total is over $199).

What you get: Fresh-frozen gourmet plant-based meal options that have already been fully prepped and cooked for you.

Cooking required? No. Meals arrive fully prepped and cooked — all that is required is reheating.

Great for: Those looking for a wide array of pre-made, plant-based meals.

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Serena Williams Is Wearing The Cutest Nail Art For A Cause

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In the wake of the recent bushfires burning across Australia and into New Zealand, Serena Williams has made it her mission to use her celebrity platform to promote aid for the people and animals in danger of losing their homes — and possibly their lives — in this devastating natural disaster.

For her most recent international tournament at the Australian Open, Williams showed up for her match against China’s Wang Qiang dressed in a purple-printed tennis outfit — with scrunchie and sneakers to match. But this time, she also added one important detail to her signature bedazzled manicure: baby koala nail art.

Court-side photographers snagged a few close-up shots of the manicure, which raises awareness for those effected by the horrific bushfires threatening Australia’s native wildlife. With a current estimated animal death toll of over 1 billion, every species native to Australia is at risk — particularly koala bears, who may have lost over 30% of their population.

Earlier this month, Williams posted a personal Instagram expressing her devastation for the wildlife at risk and prompting fans and followers to donate to the World Wildlife Fund. “With the loss of over 500 million animals and many people left without their homes, we need to act now to help in whatever way we can,” Williams wrote in her photo caption. “I have been going to Australia for over 20 years so this devastation is hitting me particularly hard.”

But Williams’ adorable accent art isn’t just for show. According to reports by Newsweek, Williams also pledged to donate her winnings from last week’s Auckland Classic (where she won her 73rd singles title) to Australian bushfire relief efforts. Current reports show that New South Wales and Victoria continue to battle against fires and wreckage, so the mission for global aid is still imperative to provide Australia and New Zealand the resources needed to rebuild.

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L.A.’s Coolest Nail Brand Is Now At Your Local Target

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Last spring, L.A.'s coolest boutique nail salon, Olive & June, dropped a limited-edition collection at Target. After just two weeks, the adorable palm tree and star nail-art sticker packs had sold out of every Target store nationwide.

Since then, Olive & June has continued to expand by selling even more press-on designs directly on its site, plus $8 polishes and a clever tool that makes painting with your non-dominant hand a whole lot easier. Its growth continues into 2020 with today's big news: A permanent retail partnership with Target, which means a trendy manicure is now as easy as running your Saturday errands or making a quick online order.

Scroll ahead for an exclusive sneak peek of the Olive & June collection, which drops both online and in all Target stores across the country on February 1st. Consider it a mental note to swing a hard right into the nail-care aisle the next time you're shopping for dry shampoo and picture frames.

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The Poppy


There's nothing else quite like it, so this squishy, ergonomically-designed tool will be easy to spot. The flat end slides over the cap of almost any nail polish brush (even other brands) and provides the stability needed for a smooth and even polish application.

Olive & June The Poppy, $16, available February 1st at Target.

7-Free Nail Polish


There will be a small collection of Olive & June polish shades available at Target, too. Look out for six of the brand's bestselling pastels, including classic white, light pink, and this dreamy sky blue.

Olive & June Nail Polish, $8, available February 1st at Target.

Top Coat


Olive & June founder, Sarah Gibson Tuttle, says if you paint your nails in the evening, wait to apply this protective clear coat the next morning to instantly smooth any pillow creases that happened overnight.

Olive & June Top Coat, $8, available February 1st at Target.

Nail Art Stickers


Inspired by the nail art offered at the three Olive & June L.A. salons, these mini sticker packs make it easy to try on-trend designs without a salon appointment.

Olive & June Nail Art Sticker, $7.50, available February 1st at Target.

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Tonight’s Grammys Red Carpet Fashion Is All About Taking Risks

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The Grammys are always a welcome rest stop during the marathon of film and TV award shows that take place between January and February. Don’t get us wrong, we’ll never get tired of seeing Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston together in the same room, but after the Golden Globes and the SAGs, we’re happy to tune in to watch a totally different crowd of A-listers share of inside jokes, celebrate one another’s accomplishments, and, of course, walk the red carpet.

Fashion at the Grammys is nothing like that of the award shows before it because attendees are known for going above and beyond in the style department. Imagine if Cardi B showed up at the Golden Globes in that vintage Thierry Mugler oyster dress or seeing J.Lo at the SAG Awards wearing her now-iconic jungle dress — it just wouldn’t happen. But at the Grammys, there are no rules, and it shows on the red carpet. 

Tonight, we’re expecting a fashion-focused crowd, with everyone from Lizzo and Miley Cyrus (who may or may not be attending arm-in-arm with Cody Simpson) to Lady Gaga and Lil Nas X (whose Kelsey Randall cowboy hat on the cover of Variety deserves its own Grammy) attending the festivities. Will Ariana Grande show up in an oversized hoodie and OTK boots? We wouldn’t be surprised. How over-the-top will Diplo get this time? Only time will tell. And then there’s Beyoncé, who’s never once failed to impress us with her red carpet fashion. All in all, tonight’s style game is shaping up to be as covetable as the Grammy Awards themselves — and we can’t wait to tell you all about it.

Snag a front-row seat to all the action by clicking through our list of the best-dressed celebrities on tonight’s Grammy Awards red carpet.

Brandi Carlile


Whatever you do, don't let the Grammys go by without taking some time to admire this floral three-piece suit on "Hold Out Your Hand" singer Brandi Carlile.
Photo by Jon Kopaloff/FilmMagic.

Lute

@tinyhatskatelife just made its red carpet debut on Dreamville artist Lute. Oh, and his magenta three-piece suit and cozy turtleneck weren't half-bad, either. Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images for The Recording Academy.

Maggie Rogers in Vintage Chanel


Maggie Rogers threw it back to the early 2010s in a star-studded vintage Chanel gown from 2013. But because 2020 is all about self-care, naturally, the "Alaska" singer had to accessorize with a chic Chanel water-bottle-slash-handbag #Hydration.Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images for The Recording Academy.

Chrissy Teigen in Yanina Couture


Chrissy Teigen never fails to light up our day on Twitter, but it's her orange, bold-shouldered frock on tonight's red carpet that's bringing a smile to our faces right now. Photo by Steve Granitz/WireImage.

Lana Del Rey in Aidan Mattox


Lana Del Rey always looks her best on the red carpet (yes, we're talking about her Heavenly Bodies Met Gala look), and her Gatsby-inspired get-up on tonight's red carpet is no different.

Dua Lipa in Alexander Wang

Dua Lipa just brought the '90s back in full force with this slinky satin two-piece set. Photo by Amy Sussman/Getty Images.

Shawn Mendes in Louis Vuitton


First Timothée Chalamet and now Shawn Mendes — we simply can't get enough of today's fashion boys donning magenta suits on the red carpet.

Bebe Rexha in Christian Cowan

Did Bebe Rexha just make rhinestone turtlenecks the most sought-after trend of 2020? We think yes! Photo by Amy Sussman/Getty Images.

Lil Nas X in Versace


Lil Nas X has yet to disappoint us on the red carpet, but this head-to-toe hot pink Versace 'fit (cowboy hat included) might just be our favorite of his award show looks yet. Photo by Lester Cohen/Getty Images for The Recording Academy.

Tyler, The Creator


Can we all just take a moment to appreciate Tyler The Creator's very Grand Budapest Hotel-esque bubblegum pink get-up on tonight's red carpet?

F.K.A. Twigs in Ed Marler


This hooded pink and black gown, which was custom made for F.K.A. Twigs by her close friend Ed Marler, is straight out of the Baroque period.

Camila Cabello in Versace


"Señorita" singer Camila Cabello is giving us serious Renaissance-era vibes in this black strapless gown featuring one hell of a petticoat.Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images for The Recording Academy.

Ariana Grande in Custom Giambattista Valli


We can't even begin to Imagine a world where Ariana Grande doesn't look 10/10. Can you blame us? Just look at this absolutely iconic cloud gray ensemble, matching evening gloves included.Photo by Steve Granitz/WireImage.

H.E.R. in DSquared2


From the pastel lenses on her oversized shades to the metallic belt wrapped around her patterned robe dress — H.E.R.'s red carpet look really does have it all.
Photo by Emma McIntyre/Getty Images for The Recording Academy.

Ariana Grande


While you were debating whether her first dress was gray or blue on Twitter, Ariana Grande was busy switching up her entire look, this time putting on a just-as-voluminous skirt paired with a satin crop top.

Billy Porter in Baja East


The Grammys have only just begun, but Billy Porter's already won the night's most coveted award: Best dressed. Sorry folks, but between his rhinestone Baja East hat and his shimmering teal bodysuit, we can't imagine anyone out-doing the Pose star. Photo by Amy Sussman/Getty Images.

Billie Eilish in Gucci


Billie Eilish just ensured that 2019's slime green trend will continue to reign supreme in 2020 with this GG-printed two-piece set (paired with rhinestone earrings, shiny puff-sleeves, and dad-approved sneakers) courtesy of Gucci. Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for The Recording Academy.

Adrienne Warren in Brandon Maxwell

We can't help but attribute this gorgeous one-shoulder gown on singer and actress Adrienne Warren to Tina Turner, a.k.a. the "Proud Mary" singer who Warren is currently portraying in the Broadway musical Tina: The Tina Turner Musical. Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images for The Recording Academy.

Lizzo in Versace


This Old Hollywood-esque all-white ensemble on Lizzo (who's been nominated for a whopping 8 Grammys) deserves a Grammy Award of its own. Photo by Jon Kopaloff/FilmMagic.

Nathalie Joachim


Brooklyn-based composer Nathalie Joachim is giving new meaning to the phrase "red hot" in this voluptuous frock paired with a modern art-inspired clutch. Photo by Emma McIntyre/Getty Images for The Recording Academy

Jameela Jamil in Georges Chakra Couture


Jameela Jamil makes a case for monochrome on the red carpet by matching her paneled indigo gown with sparkling eye shadow in the same hue. Photo by VALERIE MACON/AFP via Getty Images.

Labrinth in Balmain


The only thing more impressive than vocalist Labrinth's pipes is his unbeatable style game — and this draped red suit paired with gold jewelry and white boots only adds to that reputation. Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images for The Recording Academy.

Jessie Reyez in Romona Keveža


Jessie Reyez looks "Crazy" good right now thanks to this stunning strapless red gown. Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images for The Recording Academy.

Lucky Daye in Grayscale


We're loving this mint chip double-breasted suit on "Real Games" singer Lucky Daye a little bit too much. Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images for The Recording Academy.

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Beginner Gym Moves That Are Actually Fun

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Hitting the gym when you're new to working out or after a long break is the best — and the worst. On one hand, moving your body feels amazing, and it's always exciting to kick off a new habit. But on the other, figuring out how to use confusing exercise equipment or pretzel yourself into the correct form can seem intimidating.

The right fitness plan, however, can give you a boost of confidence during the first few days or weeks of a new workout regimen. The key: sticking to moves that will lay the foundation for your future gym adventures. You're looking for exercises that are easy enough that you don't feel embarrassed or overwhelmed testing them, but are functional enough to help you build real strength. To help you get off to a solid start, we asked two trainers to share their favorite beginner workout moves for the gym.

These movements will hit several large muscle groups at once to quickly improve your posture, strength, and energy levels. They also offer up a starting point for more complicated exercises, so you'll be able to build on the plan as you get stronger.

You can do all these moves together as one workout, or start with your favorite four and work your way up to all eight.

Our trainers: Joey Foley, the cofounder of Punch Pedal House in New York City and a former D1 Football player; Heather Stevens, a master instructor at Studio Three, an interval-cycle-yoga studio in Chicago

Goblet Squat

This move is simple and engages several muscle groups, Foley says. "It's an excellent drill for mastering proper squat form," he says. "It works the legs dynamically and the upper back, core, and shoulders isometrically."

How to: Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart or slightly wider. Squat down, sitting back with your hips like you're slowly easing into a chair. Push through your heels to stand back up. Do 10 to 15 reps three times.

At first, use just your bodyweight. As you get more comfortable, you can add a dumbbell.

"Hold it in front of your chest as if you are supporting a large cup or goblet," Foley says. "This forces [you] to keep a strong core, shoulders back and straight back, so there little to no pressure on your lower back."

Reverse Lunge

This exercise gives you plenty of bang for your buck. It works many muscles in the legs, Stevens says.

How to: "Starting with all ten toes facing straight forward and feet hip-width apart. Step one leg back, bending your back knee until it hovers just above the floor," Stevens says. "Shift your weight onto your front leg to come back to standing. Repeat on the other side."

As the move becomes easier, try it while holding two small weights just above your shoulders with your elbows bent. When you get to a standing position at the top of your lunge, straighten your arms for a press. Do 10 reps.

Weighted Sit-Up


"The sit-up is another great foundational exercise," Foley says. "Weighted sit-ups will build balance, stability, and strength." They also correct the mistakes of a regular sit-up because they help you control your momentum as you raise yourself up.

How to: To begin, lie on your back on the floor with your knees bent and your feet flat on the floor. Hold a two-pound weight against your upper chest.

Use your abdominal muscles to contract your core and lift your torso off the floor, raising the weight above your head as you do so. Your hips and feet should be stationary and grounded to the floor. Do 15 reps.

Arnold Press

The perfect starter shoulder movement. Foley says it makes a great foundation for many upper-body moves. You can do it seated on a bench or standing up.

How to: Hold a dumbbell in each hand. Bring them to shoulder-height with your palms facing your chest, and the ends of the weights touching each other.

"Press the dumbbells overhead, straightening your arms while rotating so that your palms are facing forward overhead," Foley says. Your elbows should still be slightly bent. Bring your dumbbells back to shoulder-height. Repeat 10 to 12 times.

Alternative Side Lunge with Press

Foley says this move is dynamic, and will help beginners gain strength in several muscle groups.

How to: For the side-squat, stand with your feet shoulder-width apart. Take a deep breath and a significant step out to the side with your right foot (out as far as you can while still keeping both feet flat on the floor). As you descend into a lunge, keep your toes facing forward, and land on the sole of your foot. Shift most of your weight on your right leg as it dips into a 90-degree angle. Keep the other leg straight. Your glutes should be working behind you. To come back up to standing position, explosively push off with your right foot. Do eight reps on each side.


"Start with no weight so you can build stability and balance. As you progress, begin to add in on," Foley suggests. You'll hold a light dumbbell in each hand. Bring the weights to shoulder-height. As you step into the lunge, press the dumbbells overhead, keeping your shoulders square and your core flexed. Lower the weights back to shoulder height, then return to standing.
Incline push-up

This is a great way to work up to a regular push-up, while still building core and arm strength.

How to: Start in an incline plank position. Your hands will be on a workout bench, coffee table, chair seat, or steps. Hold your body flat like a board, engaging your core, balancing on your toes with your feet behind you. Bend your elbows to 90 degrees, but keep them close to your ribs, lowering your upper body into a push-up position. Push back up to start, and repeat up to ten times.

Russian Twist

Just about every exercise requires core strength or stability, and this move will strengthen that area several ways — both in your abdominals and obliques (which are located on the sides of the abdominals).

How to: Sit with your knees slightly bent and your feet flat on the floor. Lower your torso partway down towards the ground, so your body is in a "V" shape and your core is engaged. Clasp your hands together in front of you and twist your torso from side to side, Bring your clasped hands down as close to the floor as possible while maintaining your form with each movement. Twist from your core, not your shoulders.

Start with bodyweight, then try it while holding a light weight in your hands, Foley suggests.

Bicep curls

"The bicep curl is essential," Foley says. It builds up strength in both the upper and lower arms,

How to: Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart and hold a dumbbell in each hand. "Keep your arms close to your body with your elbows slightly touching your obliques, and your palms are facing your hips," he says. "Keeping your upper arms stationary, bend your elbow like a door hinge, raising your arms while twisting your palms towards the sky to touch your upper chest."

Exhale as you curl the weights up to shoulder level while contracting your biceps, and inhale and you bring them back down into starting position. Do 15 reps.
 

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YouTube’s First Big Scandal Was Cancel Culture Done Right — What Happened?

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By the time I’ve finished writing this sentence, another person will be cancelled on YouTube. At least that’s what it feels like in 2020, when YouTubers are running their own reality shows and need to keep the views coming even at the cost of their personal reputations. As Jezebel documented last year, there are whole channels dedicated to unpacking YouTube drama and letting you know who is cancelled and by whom. But before Jake Paul and Tana Mongeau broke up, before “BeauTubers” James Charles and Tati Westbrook made a series of somber videos about each other, before Shane Dawson was accused of doing sexual things to his cat, before Olivia Jade had to leave YouTube following her college-admission scandal, and before Logan Paul filmed a suicide victim in a forest, YouTube was not yet of interest to the general public, and one of its biggest cancellations happened entirely inside its own walls. 

In March of 2014, the community brought forth widespread sexual harassment allegations, and it wasn’t because the New York Times published an expose, or an open secret had finally been acknowledged. Young female YouTubers and fans came forward in videos and on Tumblr to accuse what amounted to over 40 male YouTube creators, many of them musicians, of sexual misconduct. In most cases, men in their early 20s with predominantly female followings were accused of taking advantage of their power and influence to inappropriately interact with their fans, with allegations ranging from emotional abuse to rape.

This was before there was a term like “cancel culture” to succinctly explain what was going on — and good thing, too. Otherwise its trajectory from authentic movement to the now eye roll-worthy “cancel culture” catchall may have been expedited. But this reckoning in 2014, aside from being the first major instance of YouTube drama, according to three prominent members of the community to whom I spoke for this piece, also marked one of the first successful ways an online community self-policed its own predators. 

“[Speaking out] felt imperative because we were such a small group,” Hayley G. Hoover, who started making YouTube videos in 2005 and was deeply embedded in the community at the time of the reckoning, told Refinery29 on a recent phone call. “People were physically together at events and spending their whole lives intertwined with each other. If something like this came up at a school, it would be obviously wrong not to address it and try and fix it. Whereas now YouTube is just reflective of the real world. It’s not a microcosm anymore.” 

Things were so insular that Hoover had friends step forward as survivors and friends on the receiving end of accusations. The community was in crisis. In a masterpost that started on Tumblr and is preserved on WordPress, an anonymous user began documenting accusations against what amounted to 43 different male creators in the YouTube and online community. 

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It started with Tom Milsom, Mike Lombardo, and Alex Day, all musicians on YouTube. In 2014, a Tumblr user came forward to accuse Milsom of coercing her into sex during their relationship. She claims she was 15 at the time; he 21 (Milsom has never directly responded to the allegation).That same year, Lombardo was sentenced to five years in prison on child pornography charges after pleading guilty to soliciting explicit photographs and videos from 11 underage fans, and others came forward with their own stories following his conviction. Day was accused of sexual manipulation, coercion, and emotional manipulation, and had enough accusations and updates to warrant an entirely different Tumblr dedicated to the ordeal titled Alex Day – Shitstorm. (Day has denied ever having a sexual relationship with anyone under the age of consent or engaging in romantic or sexual activity without someone’s consent).

“I felt kind of like I could breathe for the first time in a long time,” an accuser who posted her experience on Tumblr and wishes to remain anonymous told Refinery29. “And I received an immense amount of support from people both on Tumblr and on YouTube.”

While Tumblr still exists today, five years ago it became the preferable platform for accusers to come forward. It allowed them to remain anonymous if they chose, succinctly express their thoughts in writing, and shield them from the vulnerability of laying out their trauma in front of a camera. Plus, Tumblr’s sharing mechanisms allowed news of the accusations to spread like wildfire. 

“Tumblr…felt like this very matriarchal society on the internet,” Hoover explained. “It also felt more safe because you weren’t seeing people’s casual reactions. It was very much like, this is the group of people who are going to listen to what I’m saying and consider it rather than shout out their feelings.”

The accusations grew to the point that makeshift authority figures had to step forward to take whatever executive action was possible. John and Hank Green, members of the popular channel Vlogbrothers, founder of DFTBA records (a record label affiliated with a handful of accused YouTubers), creators of VidCon, and over 10 years older than the typical age of the YouTubers wrapped up in the scandals, issued their own statements and dropped any of the accused YouTubers affiliated with their record company.

“My only consolation is that I honestly believe these issues are coming to light in this community not because they are more common, but because we are more empowered to speak out and not hide from or cover them up,” Hank wrote on Tumblr following the accusations against Milsom. “And that’s excellent, because you cannot fix a problem if you do not face a problem.” The Greens could not be reached for further comment.

Melissa Anelli, who ran Harry Potter fan site The Leaky Cauldron and published Harry, A History (much of the YouTube community wrapped up in this scandal was part of the Harry Potter fandom), attempted to get to the root of the issue by advocating for greater change in the dynamics between creators and their fans, and the power imbalance that comes with it.

“When this all went down I joined the advisory board of Uplift Together, which does great work trying to promote positive fan/creator relationships,” she wrote in an email. “The HP Alliance also has a Positive Fandom project. There have definitely been advancements in the conversation, in awareness, in spreading the definition of consent.”

As for YouTube itself, the platform had no comment about this specific incident, but pointed me to its updated harassment policy. These updates, however, only refer to behavior that takes place on the platform, rather than as a result of it. 


A YouTuber who is technically cancelled, but puts out a video to several million views talking about it, is laughing that cancellation all the way to the bank.

Melissa Anelli

The accused creators were, to the best of everyone’s abilities, cancelled. There was little in the way of real-world consequences. Only two arrests were made in connection to the slew of accusations, although some police investigations were launched and ultimately cleared. And only Lombardo faced criminal charges. In 2014, he was sentenced to five years in prison for exchanging explicit images with underage female fans. As for Day, he eventually left YouTube but denied key elements of the allegations and repeatedly tried to return to the platform with new videos. As of now, his channel has been wiped save for select music projects and a video he made about Lost. He wrote an ebook in 2018 titled Living and Dying on the Internet about his experience getting cancelled on YouTube that is now available for $0 on Amazon (you can find it yourself if you think it’s worth the page view). Milsom left the public eye shortly after firing off a few tweets that seemingly disputed the allegations, but returned in 2019 to post a vague video titled “An Apology.” He expanded on it in the comments. 

“It took [my accuser] a lot of courage and conviction to redefine a relationship that had ended a year or so previously as an abusive situation,” he wrote. “By opening up about this and telling my side of the story, I hope not to avoid criticism or responsibility for my actions, but instead I hope to shed light on the circumstances in which abuse happens, particularly within power structures like this, and help people identify it earlier on be they a victim or a perpetrator.”

Milsom and a lawyer for Lombardo did not respond to Refinery29’s request for comment. Alex Day could not be reached for comment. 

Besides those three, many of the accused came back. However, the list stands preserved as a marker to the past, as well as a precursor to what was to come. In 2015, the serious, dramatic style of video that was often made by those creators and fans during 2014 became a meme, and the trope of “YouTube apology videos” persists to this day, emboldened in its absurdity with each passing scandal. Each subsequent YouTube feud is further tainted with increasing levels of performance to both please the YouTube algorithm and top whatever feud preceded it. Future generations could have used the 2014 reckoning as an example to follow, but instead it can feel like the accusers’ hard work to maintain YouTube as a safe place was for nothing. 

“I’m personally pretty disgusted by it,” the anonymous accuser explained. “I think it cheapens a lot of the real problems and real, very serious upsetting concerns…If I were to come out and talk about this stuff now, I would, guaranteed, have some terrible, terrible responses that would make me feel just awful about it all and maybe regret saying anything in the first place.”

Right now, two Mukbang YouTubers, Stephanie Soo and Nikocado Avocado, are embroiled in a public battle, exchanging long, intense, public YouTube videos back and forth about Soo’s claims that she was made to feel unsafe by Nikocado Avocado and accusing him of crossing boundaries. The entire timeline of accusations is playing out in a structured, manufactured, entertainment-driven way indicative of this current era of YouTube. Even accusations of inappropriate behavior have to be made with the audience in mind, and in some cases this drama benefits creators’ channels

“There’s definitely a portion of people who are watching not to be educated or informed, but to eat popcorn and call the plays and have some good schadenfreude,” Anelli said, which makes sense when the gravitas of these initial accusations is now similarly applied to fights about make-up brands and possibly-staged relationships. 

Six years later, of those named in the initial post, around ten have been active on YouTube the past year. The rest have, for the most part, faded into obscurity — but this may only be because not many eyeballs were on them in the first place. The more prominent these reckonings have become, the less effective the cancellation seems to be, because now everyone is watching. The only real way to cancel someone is to deprive them of the resources for success. The original 2014 reckoning had the ability to overcome the size of the accused creators’ fanbases and slowly push them out of the public eye without any rubbernecking from the rest of the internet because it was done by the community, for the community. But now, with more of the world watching YouTube, these reckonings draw the attention that allows the accused to still thrive. 

 “A YouTuber who is technically cancelled, but puts out a video to several million views talking about it, is laughing that cancellation all the way to the bank,” Anelli said. “So what does it even mean?” 

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Demi Lovato Makes A Triumphant Return To The Stage Wearing Christian Siriano

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LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – JANUARY 26: Demi Lovato performs during the 62nd Annual GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on January 26, 2020 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for The Recording Academy)

It’s been over a year and a half since we last bore witness to Demi Lovato performing live on-stage — and boy, did she make a comeback. During last night’s 62nd Annual Grammy Awards, the 27-year-old singer-songwriter, who relapsed in July of 2018, took to the piano to perform an emotional new song titled “Anyone,” which she wrote prior to her overdose, but is just now releasing to the world. As you probably could’ve guessed, she brought the audience — both those sitting alongside her at the Staples Center and watching at home — to tears. 

Equally as breathtaking as her performance, though, was the ethereal white gown she wore to execute it. Made of sparkling white sequins, the long-sleeve Christian Siriano original had blazer-like qualities on the bodice, paired with a billowing skirt and a leather, studded corset designed by Zana Bayne. Her shoes were Lesilla. But naturally, Lovato (with the help of her stylist Law Roach) had to take the look one step further. Along with her custom dress, she wore two diamond rings — one being a 52 ct. amber cut white diamond and the other a 20 ct. tear-shaped diamond — and a pair of 18k white gold earrings, each containing an added 26 cts. Yeah, that’s 124 carats. Let that sink in. 

Shortly after the song’s final bars, Siriano took to Instagram to congratulate the singer on a stunning performance. Demi it was an honor to create for you tonight and WOW that was unbelievable! Love you! Xo CS Styled by my friend @luxurylaw,” he captioned a photo of her. “Our jaws are all on the floor! Iconic iconic iconic,” Zana Bayne commented. 

Fans of Lovato’s expressed a similar sentiment on Twitter, with one user tweeting, “I couldn’t look away. The false start, the running mascara, the giant white dress and the song. ‘Nobody’s listening to me. Nobody’s listening.  Lord, is there anyone?’ For those of us who have been there, thank you for that song. #GRAMMYs #DemiLovato.” Another wrote, “Demi Lovato. You are here. You are alive. You are stunning. You’re dressed like an angel. Your vocals are breathtaking. Your story is inspiring. They applaud you standing. Look at you woman, I’m so proud.”

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What Causes Body Odor? From Stress To Sulphur

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There is nothing more distressing than realizing you’ve left the house without the protection of deodorant. I personally keep one at home, one at work, and a mini one in my purse. Still, sometimes this crucial shield between your armpits and the world can be forgotten.

The good thing to remember is that a little bit of smell is natural, and everyone has been there. “Body odor is caused by bacterial breakdown of sweat,” explains Dr. Shari Lipner, MD, Ph.D., a dermatologist at Weill Cornell Medicine and NewYork-Presbyterian. There are a few main glands that produce sweat: Eccrine and apocrine. But when it comes to B.O., the apocrine gland is the main culprit, explains Dr. Richard Firshein, D.O., a leading expert in integrative and precision-based medicine and founder of Firshein Center. These are the glands in our armpits and groin area, which is why this is where we usually apply deodorant.

But why do humans tend to smell a little raunchy as the day wears on? There are a few reasons.

B.O. is a natural body function

“Body odor is normal,” Firshein says. “There are a lot of reasons people think we have body odor, and they range from the release of pheromones to preventing predators from thinking we might be a good meal. They run the gamut.”

The good news is that even though body odor is annoying, it’s pretty natural. It ramps up during puberty — and (luckily for us!) it happens for the rest of our lives. Still, some B.O. is worse than others for a reason.

You’re going through puberty

There’s a reason most six-year-olds don’t wear deodorant — B.O. gets worse with puberty. Beginning when we’re pre-teens, our hormones cause us to begin to sweat more in the armpit and groin area. And, as the University of Wisconsin-Madison puts it, “New hormones produced during puberty cause teen sweat to contain chemicals that aren’t present in childhood. These chemicals produce stronger odors as they break down.”

You’re eating the wrong foods

Firshein says that there are certain foods we eat that may cause B.O. The worse smells happen when your body can’t properly break down and secrete specific compounds in your food.

Some foods that are known for causing problems are those with sulphur in them, such as red meat, eggs, onions, broccoli, and garlic, Firshein says.

“Each food has a specific type of bacteria, that can produce a slightly different smell,” Firshein says. To reiterate: Body odor is caused by bacterial breakdown of sweat, and eating different foods will shift the kinds of bacteria interacting with that sweat. It’s like the circle of life, but with sweat and smell.

You’re drinking too much

Firshein says that when you drink a lot of alcohol, your sweat becomes more acidic, which will translate into body odor. The more alcohol you drink, the more acidic you may smell (and the more deodorant you may want to roll on!).

You’re stressed

Just when you thought stress couldn’t be any more damaging — it can worsen B.O. Stress does not actually cause body odor, but likely worsens it, Lipner explains. Those crazy apocrine glands we talked about activate when you’re under psychological pressure, and stress tends to send your sympathetic nervous system into high gear. “If you have a stressful encounter or a near accident, your smell can get acidic,” Dr. Kristine Blanche, PA.-C., Ph.D. is the CEO of Integrative Healing Center, says. “The body goes into fight or flight, and it changes the whole dynamic within the body, your heart rate will go up, and it there can be changes the different pH of your body, taking you from alkaline to acidic.”

There’s a bigger issue going on with your health

It’s natural for your body odor to change when you hit puberty. But if it’s happening later in life, it could signal of a larger problem with your health, Blanche says.

People who have diabetes may experience more body odor than some people, Firshein notes. Lipner adds that it could be an endocrine disorder such as hyperthyroidism, or even a neurologic condition.

Blanche recommends trying to first mix up what you eat if a drastic change in body odor occurs — see a doctor if the problem persists after that.

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How Demi Lovato Kept Her Mascara From Running During That Emotional Grammys Performance

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In her first performance since being hospitalized for an overdose a year and a half ago, Demi Lovato took the stage last night at the Grammy Awards to debut a heart-wrenching new song, titled “Anyone,” that was written just days before the incident. The rendition was emotional from the get-go, with the singer starting over after getting choked up, and the audience wiped away tears of their own as they gave Lovato a standing ovation at the end.

This touching moment was planned down to the last detail days ahead of the ceremony, from pre-show interviews to creating her onstage look, which included tear-proof makeup. We spoke to celebrity makeup artist Mario Dedivanovic, who told us the inspiration behind Lovato’s look came to him just hours ahead of the show. “I kept thinking of a phoenix rising when I watched her rehearsal, and yet she looked so angelic at the same time,” he exclusively tells Refinery29. “I wanted to do something soft that wouldn’t take any attention away from her powerful voice and performance.”

In a post shared to his Instagram feed, Dedivanovic admitted to panicking once the show was underway. “When I saw the tear coming down my heart starting beating so fast,” he wrote. “I went into panic mode.” But there wasn’t a single mascara streak to be found — and the pro credits one go-to product for keeping Lovato’s eye makeup perfectly intact.

“For a big performance, powder is key,” Dedivanovic tells us. He set the undereye area with YSL Beauty All Hours Setting Powder in B30 Almond, which ensures that the “mascara and liner [didn’t] smudge or run.” For retaining natural radiance under the heavy lights on stage, he always avoids the cheekbones when sweeping on powder and focuses on the undereyes, sides of the nose, chin, and forehead.

LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – JANUARY 26: Demi Lovato performs onstage during the 62nd Annual GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on January 26, 2020 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Emma McIntyre/Getty Images for The Recording Academy)

Dedivanovic also used smudge-proof mascara, YSL Mascara Volume Effet Faux Cils: N. 1 High Density Black, and water-resistant eyeliner, Eyeliner Effet Faux Cils Shocking, to ensure the look was locked down. In the close-up shots during the telecast, Lovato’s shimmery eyeshadow took center stage, courtesy of the crushed-gold YSL Sequin Crush Eyeshadow in N. 1 Legendary Gold that the makeup artist brushed all over her lids, with the same formula in brown applied to the outer corners for dimension.

With last night marking Lovato’s return to the stage — she’ll also be singing the National Anthem at the Super Bowl LIV this weekend — we’re excited for what’s to come from the star, who never stops inspiring us, from her music to her mental-health advocacy and her beauty prowess.

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This Is How Dating By Your Star Sign Works

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“So, I’ve got a question for you…” The man opposite me swirled his forefinger in his gin and tonic, then sucked on it loudly before taking a sip. There was something obscene about the whole performance; about the way he pursed his wet mouth around his finger and the suckling sound he made; about the fact that he kept eye contact the whole time. 

“Oh yeah?” I replied.

“Do you squirt?” The pub was full of people and too hot. We’d managed to get one of the last tables, next to a searing radiator, and were hemmed in on all sides by people standing with their backs to us. 

I sighed. 

I think at one point in my life I might have laughed; I might have been like, “Ha ha, WTF, why are you being a weirdo?” But I’m 31 and it was a dank Friday night and I felt the pull of my friends somewhere out in the city. I imagined them huddling together in the smoking area of a pub or sitting on a sofa, eating chips and cracking jokes.

Fuck this, I thought, before replying: “Not sure that’s an appropriate question to ask someone you only met 20 minutes ago?”

“Oh come on!” He pushed his glasses up his nose with that still-moist forefinger. “I’m just trying to get to the juicy stuff.” 

“Juicy being the operative word?” I raised my eyebrows.

“Exactly,” he banged the table, laughing, before taking another swig of his G&T. 

In fairness, Michele had warned me not to go for a Scorpio. “It’ll be intense,” she said, “and such a journey.” 

Michele Knight is Bumble’s in-house astrologer. The app introduced the astro-filter last year and Bumble says it has since become the most-used filter, allowing swipers to whittle down potential matches based on their star sign. All of which has been reported in the media with varying degrees of side-eye.

Haters cynically joke, “Ha ha look at these idiots who love star signs even though there’s no scientific proof they’re real,” as though dating based on astrological compatibility is somehow more ridiculous than dating based on how someone looks in three carefully selected pictures and a 30-word bio. 

In fairness, many studies, like this one conducted at Cambridge University, have argued that astrology is neither accurate nor scientifically sound. But still, a few months ago I found myself single again after an acrid break-up with a Virgo, and looking for any reason (beyond the fact that I’m a shit person who doesn’t deserve love) to explain why we hadn’t worked out. I’ve always been into horoscopes enough to know about my own sign (Leo) and which signs I might be compatible with. 

My best friend at school was an Aquarius – my opposite – and growing up we’d spent hours reading about what that meant for our friendship in the back pages of Mizz magazine (as a Leo, I learned that I was brash and flirty, attention-seeking but loyal to a fault). From that early knowledge I knew, vaguely, that Virgo and Leo were not a good match. 

Buckling under the crushing sadness of our break-up – tinny desperation that brought tears to my eyes when I found one of his T-shirts, folded neatly among my pyjamas – I grasped at the fact that maybe it wasn’t ‘all bollocks’. 

I looked it up online one night soon after the Virgo and I started seeing one another. Virgos, as I understood them, were myopic, detail-oriented and organized. They loved order and had a tendency to be judgmental. He was sitting next to me on the bed reading Adults in the Room by Greece’s ex-finance minister, Yanis Varoufakis and I thought it might be funny to tell him what I found. Funny in a bleak way: one site put our emotional compatibility at 1%. ONE PERCENT. He was annoyed that I’d even bothered to read it and pointed out that it was “all BS.”

I shrugged. “Yeah, maybe.” 

Almost two years later, buckling under the crushing sadness of our break-up – emptiness in my solar plexus, tinny desperation that brought tears to my eyes when I found one of his T-shirts, folded neatly among my pyjamas – I grasped at the fact that maybe it wasn’t “all BS.”

Maybe we just weren’t meant to be, cosmically. Wouldn’t that explain it? Hadn’t it so often felt like we were speaking different languages? I found him to be overly critical. He found me to be needy, messy, erratic and unfocused. He found my silliness annoying but my sullenness insufferable. 

“For you, somebody like a Virgo or a Taurus will be too restrictive right now,” Michele said, out of the blue, when I called a few months ago to find out whether astrology was to blame for my break-up. I told her that my ex was a Virgo with a Taurus moon and Taurus rising. She laughed. 

“Well, that’s interesting… I would say you probably weren’t suited. He probably admired a lot of things about you, but you probably felt he was too critical.” I didn’t reply. “But I bet he also made you feel very safe. You felt grounded by that earthy energy.” Yes, I replied, that’s true. 

She advised me to aim instead for a Sagittarius (“they’re adventurous and eccentric…they’ve always got something interesting to say”), a Gemini (“this one could end up being your soulmate; they’re good talkers and will keep you entertained”) or an Aries (“Aries men are a bit troublesome – you could have quite a fiery, passionate relationship though. Maybe good for a fling”). She also said a Cancerian might work (more on this in a second) but cautioned against a Scorpio. “They’re very intense personalities; sexually curious, even a little deviant,” she explained, “but your moon is in Scorpio, so you have that too and would probably be drawn to it. I just don’t think that’s a good energy for you right now. Very intense…”

So I set my filters on Bumble (I included all of the signs she mentioned, even the ones that weren’t quite right, so I could make a comparison) and started swiping. 

Immediately I was reminded of how profoundly odd the whole app dating thing is. Mostly I was surprised by how many pass-agg one-line bios there were out there. My favorites included “don’t be a psycho,” “looking for someone who can keep up,” and (mind-bogglingly) “must have at least a B in GCSE maths.” 

I came across one Sagittarius whose main picture was of him smoking a massive spliff. I swiped right because, while I don’t actually smoke weed, the picture did make me laugh. It seemed to stick two fingers up at the gym selfies, rugby photos and borrowed-puppy pictures.

Perhaps I was too eager to find someone a bit “out there,” though, because as soon as the Sagittarius with the massive spliff got my number he sent me a GIF of him grabbing his dick through his boxers. I replied with, “lol that you made that into a GIF” (because, really, what else can you say?) and blocked. I also spoke to two noncommittal Geminis and a Scorpio who made a reference to Enoch Powell (wtf?) but the first actual date I went on was with a Cancerian. 

“You’ve got Venus, the planet of love in your seventh house of relationships,” Michele told me, cryptically. “So you’re very drawn to Cancerians. I think you might end up with one. The Cancerian is emotional, wants to talk about feelings and wants to love freely. But if you’re going to go for a Cancerian, you’ve got to be ready for a relationship.” 

Worth a try, I thought, and he seemed like a nice man. Early 30s and a marketing manager for a tech startup based near Silicon Roundabout. When we met he looked handsome in a dark blue suit. He’d gotten himself into a bit of romantic trouble last year after having an affair with a married woman. “Her husband didn’t pay any attention to her,” he offered as a sort of explanation. “She was so smart” — he gave me a significant look — “and fun.” Across the table (we’d migrated from a pub to a burger place) he looked downcast. “I’ve kept it a secret for so long, it’s nice to tell someone,” he said. “Sometimes I open my messages on her name and think about what I’d say to her. Sometimes I type out a message. But I never send it.” I nodded. “Is that weird?” he asked quickly. 

Is dating based on astrological compatibility any more ridiculous than dating based on how someone looks in three carefully selected pictures and a 30-word bio?

He’d just ordered a plain burger, no cheese, no sauces, no veg; he made the waiter repeat it back to him so as to make sure there wouldn’t be even a whiff of lettuce on his plate. “I’m quite picky,” he explained. I told him the message thing was less weird than ordering a completely plain burger. He laughed but I was serious. 

“I do that message thing too sometimes,” I told him. “It’s hard if you care about someone to just pretend they don’t exist, even if that’s for the best.” 

He nodded, “Yeah, that’s exactly it.” This, I thought, is one of the joys of modern dating. The Venn diagram of our lives didn’t overlap in any way; we had no friends in common, no work acquaintances. There is something freeing in that anonymity. We parted ways but kept chatting over the coming weeks — all of which was great, until suddenly it wasn’t. But I’m getting ahead of myself.

The next date was the Scorpio who asked if I squirt. As you can imagine, I left pretty soon after that despite the fact that when I said, “It’s just a fucking weird thing to ask,” he looked chastised and apologized. After him came another Scorpio, who seemed awkward and unhappy until about three drinks in. We’d gone to one of those soulless pubs near the City; I felt for him, it sounded like he’d been having an intense time at work (he did some kind of banking). He explained, pulling at his tie with an angry, clawing hand, that it was starting to seem like nothing means anything. 

“Yeah,” I said, “I’ve felt like that too before.” We talked for a while about life and then he got a message and had to “run outside for a sec.” I waited with our drinks and a moment later he came back. “Do you want some coke?” he asked, suddenly bright-eyed. It was a Tuesday night. I demurred. “But you do you,” I said. We talked some more but I left soon after. 

When he messaged for another date I said that maybe he was feeling existential because he was on a comedown. “Probably,” he replied. “Are you free Friday?”

I saw the Cancerian two more times; nice, fun, chatty dates. Nothing too intense. He didn’t want to repeat last year’s drama, he said, he just wanted something simple. He liked me – he said it often and without any great fanfare. He was being open and straightforward. Perhaps Michele had been right, I thought, perhaps it’s a Cancerian. 

My ex was always there, of course, in the back of my mind. But this was a nice distraction. For the final two weeks, I decided to concentrate my efforts on finding some Sagittarians and Geminis. In the end I went on two dates with one of each. The Sagittarian was wild, even by my standards. He was an artist with a big laugh and big hands. On our first date we ended up in a strip club and that’s as much as I’m willing to say. 

The Gemini was a bright, funny, gregarious stockbroker with an endearing lisp (he told me to make sure that I mention his lisp). The second time we met, we walked around and around and around Victoria Park until it started raining, then had coffee nearby. “I can’t believe we’re both just… sober,” he said at one point. “I usually need a few beers on a date.” I agreed that it was kinda cool. 

Then we went and got drunk. By the time I went home, we’d been chatting for seven hours. It was a good date, with a lot of jokes. But back at home, hair wet from the downpour and feeling an acidic, white wine anxiety, I opened my messages and searched for my ex-boyfriend’s name. 

I typed something out, deleted it, typed something else. Finally I sent, “Are you free to hang out?” He replied a little later saying that it probably wasn’t a good idea, but maybe dinner in a few weeks. Always so practical and thoughtful. So grounded. I cried for 10 minutes, saying to myself, “You’re so pathetic, such a sap, such an idiot.”

In the background of all this, the Cancerian had been sending nice messages. It had only been a week since we’d last met, but his messages were insistent: When would I make time for him? Why wasn’t I discussing how I felt? He wasn’t being pushy, he said, he just wanted to see me. I told him I needed space, that this was all a bit much from someone I’d only known two weeks. 

He got annoyed: Why couldn’t I just give it a chance? I said, again and again, I’m sorry, it wasn’t because of him, it was just bad timing. Then, one evening on my way home from the gym, he messaged to say that he was on his way over with wine, that it was ‘mad’ to end it before it had even started. “I’m not home and I really don’t want to hang out,” I said. But he was already there and planning to wait. 

At 9:15 p.m. I walked down my road, feeling a strange combination of dread and embarrassment. I did not want to upset him. But I felt him pushing through the invisible boundary I’d drawn around my home, and around my life. That space suddenly felt less secure. I got to my door and he came forward. “Hey,” he smiled. 

“What are you doing?” I countered. “You absolutely cannot turn up at my house, especially when I’ve asked you to give me space. Please just go.”

My key was in the lock, I felt the bite of metal on metal and the door swung open. I stepped inside and closed it quickly behind me. I cancelled all the other dates with all the other men. Even without this small drama I was, quite obviously, not ready for any of it. A few days later he sent an apology for turning up like that. “It was intense and unpleasant,” he admitted, and signed off. “It was a really fun couple of weeks.” 

We’re trying to mitigate the risk of pouring all our feelings into one person only to find, a few dates or even years down the line, that they weren’t the right one for us after all. 

Admittedly, I’d found the Scorpios the most erratic and I’d gotten on best with the Gemini, like Michele predicted. I’d also had the most, erm, emotional experience with the Cancerian. 

Look, I’ll concede that horoscopes are pretty ridiculous. But are they really any more ridiculous than app dating in and of itself? Than putting yourself out there so that others can window-shop your personality? Is picking someone based on a star sign any more arbitrary than picking them based on a few photos? All the rapid-fire messaging – the dick pics, GIFs and silly memes – is time-consuming ephemera which, added up, doesn’t actually say that much about who we are and what we want. A bit like horoscopes.

In a digital world where nothing means anything and connections exist in the most intangible ways, it makes perfect sense to me that so many of us are turning to the fatalism of astrology. We’re searching for some meaning, some grand plan to make all that effort, and all that energy, feel somehow worthwhile. 

When you stop to think about how high stakes entering into a relationship is (when all is said and done, you could end up hurt), perhaps it also figures that we’re trying to mitigate the risk of pouring all our feelings into one person only to find, a few dates or even years down the line, that they weren’t the right one for us after all. 

I spent last weekend with my friend, watching films on his sofa and ignoring my phone. He’s a Scorpio who’s just had his heart broken by another Scorpio. “We’re both passionate people,” he told me, between mouthfuls of bacon sandwich. “We’re either great together or terrible together.” 

“Which one do you think you were?” I asked. He shrugged. “Both.” Another bite of bacon sandwich. On the TV, Thanos had just dissolved half the world in Avengers and I thought about my Virgo ex. Regardless of how incompatible we were, he was always, always there when I needed him. He always went out of his way to say funny, kind and constructive things. 

“How’s the dating making you feel?” my friend asked. 

I shrugged back. “Like I miss my ex-boyfriend.” 

He laughed. “Even though your star signs weren’t a match?”

“Yeah,” I said. “Even though our star signs weren’t a match.”

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10 Common Recurring Dreams & What They Mean

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Dreams were once thought to be supernatural forewarnings from the gods. The ancient Egyptians even had sanctified "dream beds" that vivid dreamers — who were considered blessed — would use to gain wisdom from higher powers as they slept.

Fast-forward to the 20th century and you have the likes of Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung concluding that, actually, dreams provide insight into the inner workings of our minds. While our conscious mind switches off as we catch some zzzs, our unconscious mind reveals images that can offer insight into issues we might be blissfully unaware of in waking life.

Today, however, psychotherapist Matthew Bowes says, "Contemporary science about the psychology of dreams is somewhat split. There are those that believe dreams have no meaning and at the furthest extreme are simply random brain detritus. While at the other end of the spectrum [is the belief] that dreams are an essential part of maintaining our emotional, physical and mental wellbeing, by allowing the brain to process trauma, gain self-awareness and find the answers to your waking life dilemmas."

Whether scientifically proven or not, some extra insight into how to be your best self and navigate the many obstacles that life can throw your way doesn’t sound half bad. Yet while having a dream is one thing, understanding its hidden messages is quite another.

We asked Bowes to give us (and you) a helping hand and analyze some of team R29's most common recurring dreams. Here's what he said...
"I regularly wake up sweating after dreaming about being chased…"

If you’ve been avoiding certain issues by sticking your head in the sand or you’re going through a situation that frightens you on some level, dreaming that you’re being chased is pretty common, says Bowes.

"The degree to which you are being chased gives a clear indication of the degree to which you are avoiding an issue that needs to be addressed. Perhaps you’ve been risk-avoidant, or you’ve held back on confronting something which is uncomfortable or frightening," he adds.

This recurring dream is an invitation from your subconscious to face up to reality so you can move forward.
"Even when things are okay at work I have a recurring dream about being fired"

"A dream about being fired often implies that you’re feeling a lack of control in your life, and it could have absolutely nothing to do with work. Instead it could represent the balance of power in a significant relationship, and a deep-rooted fear that the relationship will come to an end," says Bowes.

If you’re experiencing this dream regularly and you’re not suffering from imposter syndrome in the workplace, it might be time to analyse said relationship and redress the balance.
"I often dream I’m surrounded by spiders…or other horrid creepy-crawlies"

Being overwhelmed by teeny tiny monsters like spiders and worms "may indicate that little irritations or worries are creeping up on you," explains Bowes.

When you start dreaming about bugs, it’s a clear sign that you’ve reached a point where decisive action needs to be taken if you don’t want to feel as frightened as you do in your dream.
"I dream about being able to fly a lot…"

"Acquiring the power of flight in a dream can mirror how you’re currently feeling in waking life – liberated, with the sense that anything is possible," explains Bowes.

If that’s how you’re generally feeling, what better time to capitalise on your optimism and try something you’ve wanted to master, be it a new hobby or business venture.

Be warned, though; according to Bowes, flying can also indicate that you’re not being grounded about a situation. There’s a difference between optimism and delusion – so it might be time for some reflection.
"I have a recurring dream where I see planes crashing from the sky"

Dreaming of a crash could be due to an unrealised anxiety that a new venture is doomed to fail. How this is resolved in the dream could be used as a teaching opportunity to guide you in real life.

For example: "If you dream that you’re able to take control of the aircraft but it is now flying nearer the ground, it might indicate that you have the capacity within you to see it through but in a more 'grounded' and less grandiose manner," explains Bowes.
"What does it mean if I’ve had several dreams about my teeth falling out?"

Just turned a year older, or been focusing on your age of late? "Your teeth falling out is a common dream associated with ageing and the perception that strength, vitality and power have been lost," says Bowes.

Now is the time to remind yourself that like a fine wine, we all get better with age.
"I am well past my schooldays but I dream over and over about failing my school/college exam"

It’s years since you left school, meaning this dream is not rooted in reality. However, when not taken literally, "it can indicate anxiousness and a tendency to put yourself under unnecessary pressure," says Bowes.

When you’re constantly worrying about your performance at work, or regularly feel like you’re not good enough, this manifests itself in your dreams as a fail grade. If you’re dreaming about this often, it’s time to work on your underlying fear of failure by addressing your lack of self-confidence.
"I dream about a car swerving out of control"

"While there are many factors that contribute to the interpretation of this dream, generally being in an out-of-control vehicle conveys a feeling of being off track and exhibiting a lack of control in waking life," says Bowes.

Perhaps you’re doing something to excess – shopping, drinking, working out – so dreaming that you can’t control the vehicle you’re in suggests you are being 'driven' by your current 'addiction'. If you are worried that you can’t get a handle on your behaviour, seek professional advice to get back on track.
"My most common recurring dream is being late"

"Being late for something may indicate that you’re running out of time to achieve a goal," says Bowes. If that’s the case, take stock and ask yourself if the timelines for your life goals have been imposed by you, or have been heavily influenced by societal expectations.

If it’s the latter, remind yourself that you’re on your own journey and there doesn’t need to be a hard and fast deadline for all your life goals.
"I often dream about a particular ex"

It may feel like you’re going backwards when you keep dreaming about an ex but "in actual fact it suggests there may be a similar pattern that’s arising in a current relationship that you need to nip in the bud," explains Bowes.

The more you are reminded of what happened with your ex, the better your sense of clarity regarding what went wrong. Use this to confront your shortcomings and address what needs attention in your current relationship.

If you are worried, frightened or stressed out about your dreams, seek professional advice from a counsellor or therapist.

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